Escorting

Fancy escorting or sex parties? It can be tempting, the money can look good. BUT...Think very carefully. It might be something you can do, or not. But don't do it just for the money as that's a good way to mess your head.

For 1-2-1 escorting, read the notes below. Sex Parties tend to be well organised (at least when you're with an established organiser) and so avoid many of the 1-2-1 risks, but be in no doubt that you will be fucking a LOT of guys, and if you're not into that kind of sex you really shouldn't go that route. If you are into that kind of sex, knock yourself out :-)

  • Escorts need to be strong willed, resiliant and with a, "grab life with both hands and fuck anyone who says otherwise", attitude. Nervous, shy, and submissive types shouldn't do this.
  • Successful escorts like sex. They might not enjoy all of their clients, but in general they do. It doesn't really matter what the cock is attached to, if it's clean and hard, it'll do, and if it hits the spot, even better. Like a dildo, but one that pays you :-) If you don't really enjoy sex, or if you are at all fussy about who it's with, (and face facts - a lot of clients will be in their 40's to 60's, fat, flabby and out of shape), then escorting isn't for you, no matter how much money you might make. You'll do your head in and start feeling shit about yourself.
    • You will hear that escorting isn't all about sex. This can be true in the BDSM and Fetish area if you make it clear what your terms of business are, and most escorts will have some clients who just want to chat, BUT in the context of someone thinking about general escorting, assume all clients will be sexual.
  • Escorting can be dangerous - I've had friends robbed by clients, I've had friends doing more than was agreed because of pressure during the meeting, (yes, that was sexual assault, possibly rape, but no witnesses, and you're an escort, even if the police believe you what can they do - no evidence). If you're not mentally tough enough to handle that, don't escort.
  • Escorts need to be good at reading people, and willing to walk away at the slightest hint of dodginess. When things go wrong the phrase "I knew, but..." tends to crop up.
  • Good escorts are careful. Very careful. At the very least, they make sure that their client knows that someone knows where they are, and when they are expected back.
  • Escorting can be a problem for a lot of potential partners. A lot of guys have major issues being the partner of an escort. FWIW, from what I've seen, the guys who are right for you will support your chosen profession (though they may not want to know too much about your day at the office). Dropping the guys who can't cope will probably NOT cost you your life partner, but may cost you some of those funnish 6-24 month relationships.
  • Face photos or not in ads. Based on the experience of friends, there is a type of predatory guy who sees a hot body without a face and thinks "she's shy. I can start playing power games". Be aware that if you do not show your face, and esp if you are a hot young woman, this is catnip to some clients who will derive pleasure from making you uncomfortable, pushing your boundaries, maybe more etc. You think you're there for sex, but that's not what it's about for him, (or it's just part of it). Personally I'd say that if you are not owning your escorting enough to show your face, you probably shouldn't escort.

In the context of a girl who models and cams, if you're going to escort, be up front about it. Guys love to book a porn girl, and you'll make more money.

and Finally

SAVE YOUR MONEY. If you escort from time to time, then OK, it's treat money. But if you escort on a regular basis and do well, SAVE YOUR MONEY - for a car, flat, whatever. Don't spend it all on clubbing, shoes and clothes :-) (Yes, I've seen girls make City Boy incomes but end up with nothing, because they spent it all).

DO JOIN - National Ugly Mugs - helps people share info about dodgy (dangerous) types so that you don't meet them. https://uknswp.org/um/

Comments - informative comments might stand. Ranty comments won't. This page is about the world as it is, not as we might like it to be. After all, many religious types think that EVERYTHING we do in this business is wrong. If you are a producer who doesn't think that escorting and porn mix, don't hire a porn girl who escorts. Simple.

Comments

Vivienne LAmour's picture

I am entirely in agreement. It is a career path and vocation that is not to be taken lightly.

clubservices's picture

Totally agree,

Both models and escorts should all be well aware of the long term effects and implications the hardcore type of work can bring to their lives. Please visit and explore Shelly Lubben's (Porn star) support website to see examples: https://www.shelleylubben.com/
Sadly by the time some take this on-board sometimes it is too late because they were not well informed and or mentored or supported the right way. Your long-term happiness is much more important than you will realise after you get involved so beware of the implications.
With the right kind of support and understanding one may do well and be okay through their career.

*If anyone would like some more information then please get in touch.

Dee
'Loving good practice and excitement with care for life'